Don’t Put People On a Pedestal

What’s up everyone, I’m back. This post is motivated by an observation I have made about the way people place other people on a pedestal. It’s apparent in all walks of life whether the person is a professional athlete, model, or even an everyday person you admire and aspire to be. Today I am going to talk about not only why you shouldn’t place these people on a pedestal but also how it can stunt your personal development.

To use a quick example, I heavily followed the YouTube fitness community between 2012- mid 2014. If you also were also into the community then you know who the major channels were around this time. I have considered myself an expert in getting into shape since 2010, so i mostly watched for the entertainment value and to see if anyone could teach me anything that I didn’t already know. As I watched videos and scrolled through the comments sections of these YouTube personalities I noticed all of them have hardcore fans that basically worship them. If anyone expressed a difference of opinion, they were verbally assaulted and called a “troll”.

I sometimes go to these channels to read the comments, and nothing has changed in 2017. It’s pretty sad, and this mentality isn’t just in the fitness community but also in the sports industry, entertainment industry, and people who are public figures based on their status. These celebrities are put on a figurative pedestal and are worshipped by their followers. A lot of it is due to the social programming aspect of people being trained to look up to people with high status. Another part of it is that most people are not natural leaders and gravitate towards people who demonstrate any hint of being a leader (even if said person has no tangible skills or knowledge).

The reason why you should not put people on a pedestal is that they are humans just like you. They eat, shit, and put on their pants the same as you, the only difference is that they might be better than you in one particular area of life. This doesn’t mean that you can’t develop yourself and become much better than average if you are willing to put in the work.

One thing that people don’t realize is that when you give another man or woman god-like status, it blinds you to the fact that they are not perfect, just like we aren’t.

Think about the professional athletes that take performance enhancing drugs but tell you that they are natural.

Or the people that are cool as long as you worship them but get mad as soon as you call them on their bullshit.

I don’t have to name any names, as I’m sure someone pops into your head as soon as I gave these examples.

I’m not here to bash anyone, whether it is high-status people or those who look up to them. There is a fine line between respecting what someone brings to the table and engaging in mindless hero-worship.

If you ever question whether you ever find yourself in a situation where you are defending said person from something another person says about them, ask yourself, “Am I doing this because the person challenging them is wrong or because I look up to (insert celebrity’s name)”. That will bring awareness to your situation and allow you to reevaluate you mentality.

I’m not saying don’t have mentors or respect the accomplishments of other people, but always do your own research before trusting anything someone tells you. It reminds me of a saying we had in the military “trust but verify”. The phrase sounds corny, but it reminds you that just because someone has been of upstanding character in the past, it doesn’t mean that it’s still the case today.

Anyway, I will have more posts up soon. I’m out.


Why You Need to Set Goals

What’s up everyone? This is Demetrius, and I’m back with another message. I find that am inspired to write when I’m going about my day and start to tap into my thoughts. I remember taking a college course a couple of years ago that compared having goals to taking a vacation and knowing exactly where you want to go and how you are going to get there. The alternative to this is of course hopping in your car and burning up your gas and hoping for the best. I’m sure you can tell I’m going to be talking about the importance of setting goals today.

Most people spend their whole lives basically on a hamster wheel. They don’t know what they want out of life so they chase after whatever looks cool at the moment. Or they find a short burst of motivation to better their lives but stop working towards it when they are no longer having fun doing so. This person may also wonder if the payoff in the future is worth all of the time he or she is investing in the present tense.

There are many distractions that we can place the blame on. First, we can blame the shows we watch on television. Yes we have “reality” television where the lowest quality people (Teen Mom, 16 & Pregnant, Housewives of…) get all of the recognition, but there are also shows where being extremely obese and overweight is glorified. I’m not taking shots at people who have legitimate medical conditions that prevents them from losing weight, but I have no sympathy for people who are undisciplined.

We can also look at how we spend our time. I have sources here and here that suggest that the average adult spends between 2 to 3 hours on social media per day. These sources only include platforms such as YouTube, FaceBook, and Instagram. It doesn’t even account for those of us who spend time in front of the television. It should go without saying that this time could be better spent on activities that actually bring value to our lives such as working out, reading a book, or learning a new skill.

I could keep going with this, but the point I want to drive home is that we have more control over our lives than we would like to think. Some people try to deny this because it’s easier to blame others and our circumstances than it is to blame ourselves. Blaming ourselves is painful because we all like to believe that we are high achievers and winning at life. To say contrary is to directly attack our ego, and some people can’t handle that. A better way to view the situation is to understand that we are not where we want to be (whether financially, physically, relationships, etc.) due to us not knowing what we want. This is a freeing mindset to have and allows you to take steps toward becoming who you want to be. I will have a post up later this week about how to set a goal. It will be fitness-oriented, but you can apply the information to achieving any goal because it is the same process. Let me know what you think in the comments. I’m out.


Why You Should Never Be Ashamed To Go To The Gym

Good morning everyone, this is Demetrius from DRichFitness. Today I want to talk about a topic that isn’t often addressed by the bigger names in the fitness game. This may be due to the fact that these men and women have been going to the gym so long that they don’t remember how it feels to be “out of their element”. It could also be because they have an image to maintain and want the perception that they have always been the man (or woman). I have no image to maintain, and even when my name blows up I am secure enough in myself to open up to my audience. I mainly am addressing the gym/bodybuilding crowd, but you can adapt this message even if you train in a sports based gym or do anything where you are exposed to the general public.

To give a little background on myself, I am 25 years old and have lifted weights since I was 13.

I played football and wrestled in high school, and I recently (January) joined a mixed martial arts gym and started training Juijitsu.

My love for bodybuilding led me to going to the local gym when I was 15 years old. I remember seeing professional bodybuilders, college athletes, and super in-shape people who just loved to work out.

It took me a few months to get used to being in a new environment. Some of the things I had to adapt to were:

-The loudness of the gym

-People that like to size you up

-People asking you what you do to build a certain muscle group (I’ve always had pretty good arms and a wide back.)

Looking back on it now, it seems pretty silly but the thing I want you to take away from this experience is that I continued to go to the gym even when I was out of my comfort zone.  This paid off in the form of gaining respect and admiration in and out of the gym, attention from the opposite sex, and increased athletic performance. A side benefit from this experience is that I gained self-confidence in the fact that I saw that I was able to set a goal and achieve it in spite of external situations.

Maybe you’re an athlete or martial artist instead of a bodybuilder.

I can also relate to you, because I am one of the “new guys” at my jiujitsu gym. A little backstory about this is I have been a big fan of combat sports since high school. In between serving 4 years in the military, 2 deployments, and going to college, my aspirations of learning martial arts started to fade.

I made excuses like:

“It’s too expensive” But I could afford it.

“I don’t want to be the new guy” But everyone was the new guy at some point.

“I don’t want to get submitted by a woman” And it happened more than once.

The turning point came around the first week of January when I decided that I didn’t want to be the 30-year old who wished he had started in his 20s.

The funny thing is that a lot of people joined the gym when I did, so I’m not the newest person nor the least experienced. I do get destroyed by the upper belts, but I can see improvement and I am able to hang with a lot of the people that are my rank and slightly above. Either way, Jiujitsu is a lot of fun and I am glad I started this year instead of letting another year pass me by.

The point of those two stories is not for me to brag or give myself props. The message I want you to take away is that I wouldn’t be who I am today if I had let fear stop me from doing the things I want to do with my life.

Maybe your goals don’t include a gym or getting into shape, but I have the knowledge to help you with that if that is what you want.

You can still use this mindset if your goal is to go to college, or get a better job, or even start your own business. The process is going to involve you having to take a leap of faith and believing in yourself. Some of your friends and family members might even doubt you, but your desire for achievement must be higher than your desire for external validation. These same people will tell you how they believed in you the whole time once you do achieve your goals (go figure).

There is nothing to fear, and you will most likely love going to the gym once you adapt to it and start making the progress that you want in your physique. Once you have this momentum going it will become easier to stick to your new, better habits than to fall back into your old, unproductive habits. As always if you like the message, subscribe, like, and comment. I’m out.